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Have You Caught the Hurry Disease?

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I couldn’t wait to get to our favorite family vacation spot – Telluride, CO. That was months ago. Now I can honestly say that I had caught the “hurry disease” before I left. You know – the latte in one hand and cell in the other.

In reflection, I recognize how much I hurried through breakfast to get to work, hurried to next appointments, hurried to conscientiously follow up with clients, then hurried to get home and unwind. (Am I kidding myself? Once home I hurried to cook dinner and finally hurried to bed so I’d be rested for the next day!) Exhausting just writing about this.

It took me two full days to unwind. I had to intentionally force my thoughts to move away from work and busyness. Being somewhat isolated and with sketchy internet, I am forced to slow down a bit each day. It was not until the third day I found myself finally withdrawn from my “hurry disease.”

Do you relate?

Do I really have to be in that big a hurry? After all – I AM in charge of my time. Why is it so easy to pressure ourselves to push, push, push? Guess what?! My clients are still there. My friends are still there. And I might have missed memories with family had I not disconnected to be fully present with them.

So here’s the deal. It’s way too easy to be driven by obligation and get in the rut of “have tos.” If we don’t intentionally stop the crazed pace of life, we might miss things like:

• Being fully present with people

• Recognizing daily positive occurrences

• Seeing better ways to handle conflict

• Living mindfully

• Listening – really listening without being distracted by the next “to dos”

Enough said! My commitment is to commit myself. Let’s make a pact, shall we?! You hold me accountable and send me your commitment so I can hold YOU accountable.

 

 That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine

Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

Do It Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

Monday Morning Leadership for Women

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“Monday Morning Leadership for Women is a treasure of timely insights and action plans that can advance any woman. It’s terrific!”

~ Candace O’Keefe -Executive Director, Leadership America, Inc.

Creating the Connection

Being a Mentor Builds Your Brand:

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“We all need someone who inspires us to do better than we know how.”

~ Anonymous

Here are 3 tips for being a great mentor.

 1 – Set the stage

Be clear with your mentee what expectations you have for the relationship. It’s a two-way street – and both of you should understand the rules of the road. When will you meet? How often? What if one of you has to reschedule? What agenda will you follow? Clear communication up front ensures an enjoyable mentoring relationship.

Currently several Fortune 500 organizations are using Monday Morning Leadership for Women as their guide for 8 mentoring sessions. Click here to order.

2 – Be vulnerable

That means be authentic. Your sessions are focused on the mentee… sharing HOW you succeeded and offering your wise counsel to help your mentee be more effective in their role. Sometimes it’s helpful to share things you would have done differently or mistakes you made along the way.

3 – Be a good listener

When your mentee wants to tell all – listen to all. Unless, of course, they are “caught in their story” too long. Believe in the person and what they are trying to achieve or overcome. Listening can develop a trusted relationship in which both of you learn from each other.

 That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the softskills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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Mentoring Helps Build Your Brand: We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know!

By Meg Weinkauf

Growing up as a millennial, I relied on my family to teach me some of life’s lessons; for example — I learned from my parents how to tie my shoes and when to say please and thank you. I believe that continuous learning is essential to teach us what we don’t know. Now in my thirties I often say, “tell me what I don’t know.”

There are things college didn’t teach, which is why having someone to learn from is imperative. I had many questions after beginning to work in the real world; for example, How do I build relationships with someone I don’t know? How do I ask for a mentor? Do I need a mentor? How do I handle politics within different companies and organizations? What should I wear to be respected as a young professional?

I had no one to ask until I found my mentor. Working with a mentor is one of the most amazing things in this world. My mentor is incredibly wise and has had many years of

experience. Even though I’m a millennial — and my mentor is a baby-boomer — we get along great! I believe that every generation can learn from one another.

I’ve been reading Valerie Sokolosky’ s book, “Monday Morning Leadership for Women” and it has been life changing for me.

MMLW 3D This book is timeless and has helped me work through many of my professional challenges. I’ve found her book to be a helpful guide at my mentoring sessions as I work through my specific work issues. One specific important lesson from the book is how to “manage sideways.”

In a mentoring meeting we talked about ways to work more effectively across departmental lines and build those important relationships with people in other departments. That was clearly a takeaway that I’ve applied now at my work.

As a millennial, I am passionate about the need to have a mentor to help guide me. And I’m grateful to have secured my mentor. I sincerely encourage every professional to reach out and get one.

 Meg

  Click here to learn more about Meg Weinkauf!

 

Watch this:

If you have five minutes – you’ll laugh at what mentoring IS NOT

 

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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You’ll Love These 3 Tips for Staying Motivated

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“Life isn’t a matter of milestones, but of moments.”

~ Rose Kennedy

BE — an Encourager

Research shows that 77% of the messages we get every day are negative. Open the newspaper, listen to complaints, watch the news. Much of what occupies our minds is anything but uplifting.

Take heart and use heart. Be that person who finds ways to encourage others – every day. A pat on the back will do. A kind word is awesome. Giving someone a compliment could make their day. Think of ways you can be a VALUE GENERATOR. That simply means you have made someone feel more valued and everyone deserves that!

Who is a value generator in your life? Who is your mentor? Who believes in you during those times you don’t believe in yourself? If someone comes to mind – tell them.

BE — in the Moment

Time is either well spent or well squandered. So use it wisely. Be fully present with an employee. Stay focused on family when you are WITH family. Be present!

Oh how easy it is to be distracted. Cell phones, multi-tasking, interruptions. Be intentional about where you focus and for how long. Here are a few tips:

• Turn off your cell phone.

• Schedule family or friend time in the calendar.

• Keep work AT work.

What’s my latest focus? Using Fridays to have lunch with someone special. What’s your idea?

BE — in Control of the Controllables

We learned this concept from Steven Covey’s “Seven Habits” book series. Here’s the main message:

• If a situation calls for taking control (and you CAN) then by all means grab it by the horns and wrestle through it.

• If a situation may not be totally in your control (but you could influence the outcome) – certainly try.

• If something is totally out of your control and you can’t possibly influence the outcome – then let it go.

Let’s all revisit the Serenity Prayer:

 “God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.”

 

 

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

 Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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Women Who Do It Right!

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This month I struggled with what to write. Usually some topic or experience hits me and there it is…something that gets my juices flowing. But not so…until now.

With this past Mother’s Day month in mind, I thought of women who are currently making a difference in my life. So why not use that month to highlight some of them?!

And for those of you who have not birthed a child – “mothering” can take many forms. It’s about nurturing and caring for others – in or out of a family.

WOMEN WHO MATTER IN MY LIFE:

STEPHANIE TAYLOR – My Daughter

It may sound boastful to start with my daughter — yet that’s exactly the right starting point.

Being a mother was my #1 desire…the same as Stephanie.

She takes great pride in “training up my grandchildren in the way they should go so that as they grow up they will not depart from those teachings.” Yes, that’s scriptural and it’s also truth. As I heard Sunday during the sermon, “children may not always do what you ASK them to do…but they will usually DO what they see you DOING.” In other words, children learn behaviors from parents. Now how’s that for pressure?

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TIA VAUGHN – My EA

Behind every executive is a terrific executive assistant — and that’s Tia.

After working together three years, Tia proactively anticipates what I need and often has it prepared before I even ask. Her positive attitude refreshes me and all who work with her.

She’s been known to make a suggestion about something I’ve been thinking but not yet voiced. That’s spooky!

LADAN- My friend with a passion for fun and making people happy.

Just be around Ladan a few minutes and you’ll catch her fervor — not fever! You’ll experience her passion for fun and making people happy. She’s the first to bring chicken soup when I’m sick or drop off her delicious pie when she senses I’m in overload mode. These acts of love always come when I’m in need of extra care or friend time. Ladan knows what it means to have the gift of charity.

EMILY CRAWFORD – My “Sister” Colleague

Our special friendship began in 1990 when we lost our son in a car accident. As colleagues on several projects, she was right there to pick up the slack. No words were necessary – only supportive actions mattered. From that time on, Emily has been an integral part of my life. And it doesn’t hurt that we are both ITALIANS!

To the many others who have been there for me, I am grateful!

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

 Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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Attitude Affects Presence

“Consider this- an optimist may see a light where there is none, but why must the pessimist always run to blow it out?”

~ Michel De Saint-Pierre

 

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Now add the numbers and they equal 100.

Here’s the deal. Attitude affects how we deal with life. It’s proven that when we ACT optimistically, we become more optimistic. When we SMILE, it’s hard to be depressed. When we LOOK for little miracles that happen every day, we’ll see them everywhere.

Attitude speaks volumes about how we react, how we carry ourselves, even how we live our values. It influences our professional presence and ultimately impacts how effectively we do our jobs.

My executive assistant Tia likes to say that every day little miracles are out there— if we would just notice them. Hence, if a parking place is out front, she’ll say “See, that’s a little miracle just for you.” Or if we acquire a client referral, she’ll say, “See there’s another little miracle for you.” What’s the point? If we don’t recognize the significance of those little miracles, we may focus too often on the negatives.

Here’s my new habit. First thing in the morning, I think of five things I’m grateful for and speak them out loud. That energizes me before my first cup of coffee; and I’m reminded that life is good and there IS much to be grateful for.

 

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

 Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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Master These 6 Practical Presence Positives

 Change Happens…For Real!

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A few months ago, driving from Dallas to San Antonio, we went from clear and sunny weather to a patch of snow lasting 10 miles— then back to a bright, sunny sky. In the blink of an eye, we had to adapt. Sun

Isn’t that what happens with ANY change? It can happen just that fast, unannounced. At work you might find yourself being downsized, right sized, wrong sized or resized. Whatever the size – you’re forced out of your comfort zone. And pressed to adapt.

Now how do you show your leadership presence? When chaos happens, it may be more challenging to keep emotions intact. This is when you’re on center stage and grace under fire really matters. This is when people look to leadership to right the ship, give direction, and trust the messages you send. As Jim Rohn said, “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”

Take heed of these Practical Presence Positives taken from my years spent teaching leadership change management across the globe:

1 – BE VIGILANT - Always be aware of what’s happening around you. Before a storm, there are often warnings that go unnoticed. Pay attention and prepare yourself by staying relevant, asking for feedback, and keeping your skills sharpened.

2 – KNOW YOUR PERSONAL BRAND - Use your strengths to impact the organization and the people in it. Be authentic as you lead your teams. Authenticity allows you to be viewed as a leader who inspires others to stay the course or move in a better direction.

 3 – FIND SOLID GROUND - When a tsunami occurs, all the tide is drawn OUT. Then without warning it comes rumbling back in. That’s when the most damage occurs. Put yourself in a position to ride it out by finding high ground. Pushing against it doesn’t help. When you find solid ground and apply good reasoning it’s much easier to find ways to move forward or even push back, but not in a defiant way.

4. COMMUNICATE OFTEN – Keep lines of communication open. Always tell the truth and tell it often. Don’t hesitate to say “I don’t know.” In times of radical change, you cannot possibly have all the answers and that’s ok. When people are kept informed, there is less chance of the rumor mill fueling false assumptions.

5. TAKE THE HIGH ROAD – Leave the negative behind. Don’t waste your energy on what “isn’t happening”— rather focus on “what can happen.”

6. THE SUN EVENTUALLY COMES OUT – And it always does. So hang on, stay on track, be focused – eventually chaos will subside. There is life after “change.”

 

More tips for great leaders

 

 That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

 Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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5 Must Have Elements of Your Elevator Pitch- Part Two

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Our last post, 5 Must Have Elements of Your Elevator Pitch,  covered why you need a compelling elevator pitch and how to deliver it with impact. Part Two continues with more tips.

 Steps and Suggestions:

1. Begin with a handshake and a smile.

2. Then the hook – a statement that gets and holds the listener’s attention… like, “I’m a team player you can count on for that winning play in the final minutes of the game.”

3. Tell not only what you do, but how you do it – and be enthusiastic.

4. How does what you do benefit your customers/clients

5. Make your request – a business card, an appointment, etc.

Watch my video, Brand With a Strong Elevator Pitch for more info.

 Examples of quick openings:

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 ”I’m the guy behind the scenes that makes sure when you order something, it gets to you on time. I love being on the logistics team – making things happen.”

“I manage a team of scientists who design drugs for very rare diseases and make a difference in people’s lives. It’s a great reason to go to work every day.”

“As an account executive at a global agency. I help translate product specs into marketing campaigns that are interesting to consumers.”

 My elevator pitch

 ”I’m an author of 8 books on Leadership Presence Branding….and I own a leadership development firm.

As the conversation progresses….

“I love being able to ignite the spark of enthusiasm in leaders to create a strong personal brand and professional presence….one that differentiates them in the marketplace and creates greater success for themselves, their teams, and their organization.”

And as the conversation continues….

“So we do lots of work in three buckets – executive coaching, training programs, and speaking engagements. For example…

1. Just last week, I coached a senior manager on how to do a painless reorganization that will save $90,000 the first year. In order to do this, he learned how to hire tough in order to manage easy and how to flawlessly execute tough decisions.”

or…

2. “Just last week, we consulted with the chairman of an international pharmaceutical company to help his senior management team prepare their leadership development programs for high potentials targeted for succession planning.”

or…

3. “Just last week, I helped transform the image of a young female from a college graduate to a young executive. Her new personal branding resulted in a position with more responsibility in her firm.”

or…

4. “Early last year at a management retreat, we facilitated a team-building session that resulted in moving the management group from a dysfunctional team to a high-performing one with shared vision and purpose. The results? They exceeded their goals by 25%.”

or…

5.” Last year, we launched a new leadership training program for a home building company that resulted in sales growth of 35 percent.”

 Now it’s your turn. I’d love you to email your elevator pitch.

 That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine.

 Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

 

 Do it Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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Monday Morning Leadership for Women

“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft

skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

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5 Must Have Elements of Your Elevator Pitch

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In only seconds what can you tell someone about yourself? That’s what you must do for your “elevator pitch” — make it brief enough to deliver on an elevator ride but concise enough to have an impact! The result? Your executive presence will be unforgettable!

A well-written (and memorized) elevator pitch is an invaluable tool as you brand yourself because:

  • It describes what you do, for whom, and how they benefit.
  • It allows you to introduce yourself, quickly and efficiently.
  • It emphasizes the Wow! factors that you bring to the table.
  • It opens doors and invites new opportunities.

Although there are no “right” or “wrong” lengths, your pitch should be short. Just enough to get the other person curious and wanting to know more. That will lead to what’s called CONVERSATION! Isn’t that the point?!

The main objective is to make every word count. Your elevator pitch will (and should) evolve just as your brand evolves. What’s perfect today will be different in the future and will vary for different audiences. Here’s the next step.

Five Elements of Your Elevator Pitch:

 1. The “hook” - Get the listener’s attention with a “hook,”— a statement that makes someone want to hear more.

2. What you do- Not the title, not the corporate speak— but clearly, confidentially, and concisely what you do.

3. The Wow! - What makes you special, unique, someone they “must” have on their team?

4. The passion - Say what you say with Oomph! Make me care. You can’t fake passion, so dig down and find it. Use words like “committed, “dedicated,” and “devoted.”

5. The request - At the end of your pitch ask for something—a business card, an appointment, or a referral. If you make every word count, you can usually get a “yes” for your request.

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“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

Find out more about my books here:

Monday Morning Leadership for Women

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“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

 

 

Rest Is A Four Letter Word

relax-955798_960_720Here it is the end of the first quarter. EEEK! I’m already rushing toward the next one….without taking a breath—or so it seems. “Wait Valerie! Slow down,” says one little voice. “But I can’t with all this work I’ve got to get done,” says the other little voice. Which one will I listen to?

If this resonates with you, here are 5 things to help us take a breath and enjoy our days with more peace of mind (and body).

1. Start the day with gratitude. The minute you wake up, think of 5 things you are grateful for. Today mine were:

• New mattress that gave me a better night’s rest

• New business relationships that are destined to become friend relationships

• Met a deadline ahead of time

• Loving and supportive family who let me sleep in on Saturdays

• Having a gym in my condo

2. Set your mobile device to alert you to take a rest break several times a day – minimum 3 times!

3. Listen to soft music during drive time. It will slow you down.

4. Pray about your #1 worry and try to let go. Let God take over. Two people can’t drive at the same time.

5. End the day snuggling in your bed with a good book.

 

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine

Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

Do It Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

Monday Morning Leadership for Women

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Be Insanely Transparent

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This first quarter has been filled with fun, family activities, and attending social events. As I watched people mix and mingle, I observed how they engaged in conversation. Some seemed to talk, just to talk — and often about themselves — what they were doing, and what they were planning. Here’s what struck me. It’s obvious when someone is engaging or just making verbal noise. Let’s be real. Strong brands have no problem showing up authentically. They realize that trying to be inauthentic takes waaaay too much effort. Here’s how to stay authentically comfortable in your own skin.

1. Care about making connections. Connections happen emotionally. When you hit on a topic that has meaning for the other person; when you share something about yourself that resonates with someone else; when you care enough to have relevant discussion. It’s not that difficult. Just put yourself in the other person’s shoes and consider what might having meaning to that person. It’s not all about you…at least not for making connections that count.

2. Decide to care. Many of us have social anxiety…not really wanting to go to the social event in the first place. That’s normal. Having said that – when you arrive, it’s up to you to make the event worthwhile. So just decide to care about coming away with something impactful. How? Look for anyone who’s standing out by standing alone. That’s likely a person who doesn’t feel comfortable. So make the effort to reach out. You never know the gem of a person you might find—someone brilliant who has stories to tell, who has resources you just might need, or who is lonely and simply needs a friend.

3. Own your brand. Give yourself credit for what you DO, what you KNOW or what you BELIEVE. Stand taller when you are making a presentation or meeting someone. Show presence, even those times you have doubts or lack confidence. Own your wonderfulness. No one else can, BUT YOU.

That’s My Voice: What’s yours? Let me hear your wisdom and I’ll send you a free article I wrote for SW Spirit Magazine

Valerie@valerieandcompany.com

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Find out more about my books here:

Do It Right!

“Do it right in the presence you exude. Do it right in how you communicate. Do it right in how you demonstrate a strong personal brand. Do it right in how you look, act, walk, talk and ARE from the inside out. Valerie’s tips will build your self-confidence knowing you can Do It Right.”

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“Business leaders refer to communications, teamwork, and etiquette as “the soft skills.” They are not the soft skills if they can get you fired. They are the foundation of business relationships, and nothing happens in business until there is a relationship. This book fills an important gap in the education of new and seasoned professionals.”

~Tom Trotter-IBM Executive & Community Leader

Monday Morning Leadership for Women

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Valerie Sokolosky

Valerie Sokolosky

PCC, Master Brand Strategist

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